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5.02.2012

A New Pinnacle In Life



Over my 30'ish years of life, I have experienced a roller coaster of experiences both amazingly happy ones and amazingly sad ones.

In the sad column, I would list events like having my first bicycle stolen, having a pet die, breakups, and losing my mother to cancer.

In the happy column would be events like birthday parties, love, first kisses, marrying my wife, and watching my son be born.

To a person who has yet to experience some of these things, it would seem that getting married and becoming a father would be absolute best things that could possibly happen to a man.

They would be wrong

A child has a magical bond with it's mother from the moment he or she is born that begins well before.

That bond is different with the father though. It isn't instant and it takes time to develop - to nurture - to grow. As a father, you are not the one who the child grew inside of. Your heartbeat is not the one whose rhythm is what that child spent several months listening to. Your smell is not what that child knows - yet. Perhaps it could be argued, though, that the time it takes to develop that bond is what makes it special in its own right.

Today, I feel as if that bond is finally truly beginning to blossom. Over the last several months, I have been watching the way my son hugs my wife and that has brought so many smiles to my face, and admittedly a tiny touch of jealousy. It has been amazing to watch him put down his favorite red ball and crawl over to her. Once there, he climbs on top of her and envelops her arm and neck in his chubby little arms while intentionally nuzzling his head into the curve that is the separation of shoulder and neck. Its one of those hugs that is the most genuine thing you can ever witness in life and something that you can only imagine the feelings it must bring when it happens to you.

Well, today, it happened to me. It was a moment that I wish could have lasted a lifetime. Down went his favorite truck and over to me he came. He climbed onto my lap and wrapped those arms around my arm and neck. He nuzzled his perfectly warm head and golden blonde hair into the curve that forms the shoulder and neck. He gave a little squeeze and just a few seconds later, he was off to play with his truck once again.

This is a new pinnacle in life.

If you have experienced it, you understand.

If you have not, then you are unable to truly understand it but I hope that it's something you will one day get experience. When you do, everything else will no longer matter except for that moment.

18 comments:

  1. Gave me the chills. So sweet. It takes a good man to recognize and admit their life loves and 'pinnacles' - thank you for sharing.

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    1. Paul Maslovaric May 2, 20125/02/2012 11:13 AM

      Well said. IT IS one of the greatest moments. There are many more to come. You will remember them forever.

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  2. How amazing is this feeling of connection and love?! Because my daughter has Autism, those tiny yet monumental milestones have taken her much longer to develop, but once she does it is an absolutely an out of this world feeling!

    You are a great person to be able to live in these moments with your son, and recognize his growth on all levels! Too many people take for granted all of these small steps in their childs lives. Wonderful post! :)

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    1. They really do...I read some stories about parents who have lost their children and I can't help but be sad for them. This in turn makes me even more grateful and able to appreciate these moments.

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  3. I just gets better and better!

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  4. You hit the nail right on the head when you said it's one of those things that you have to experience to understand, and you're right, there is nothing else like it. And like the poster above said, it just gets better and better.

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  5. That right there is a memory that will last you forever and is the first of a lifetime of tender hugs. Now that my son is 19 years old, I can tell you that an unsolicited, and unexpected, hug from him TOTALLY makes my day!

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  6. Brook
    So very well put, yes throughout your life there are many things you rememeber-and yes that attention from your son won't be forgotten--but you have many many more moments to remember with him in the future, which in time will create a bond with you and your son that can never be broken---why do I know this because I have been there. Thanks for sharing this special post.

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  7. Tim's right, it does just get better and better. I've been working late recently but got home last night before Hank went to bed and he came running over to me, yelling, "DADDY! MY BEST FWEND!" My heart melted, it was awesome. Even though he probably ran around at day care, yelling that to everyone else who came within 10 feet of him. I don't care :)

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  8. Tim is right, it does get better and better. Then you get old.

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  9. It looks like the general consensus is exactly as I have experienced so far....it only get's better. After I got married, I couldn't imagine being happier. Then my son was born and I couldn't imagine being happier. Now this....

    I am excited for the rest!

    Thanks for the comments everyone!

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  10. Then one day you will be fishing together...having kids makes everything in life better.

    Cheers

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  11. I couldn't agree more. There is nothing better than children. Its the reason we do what we do :) Great Post.

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    1. Thanks. I have to admit that I never really believed or understood that until I actually had one.

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  12. This coming Friday, my son will be 9 months old... oh how my life has changed - and I couldn't be happier. Your post offered a lot of insight into my own life rght now and observations. : ) Nice read.

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    1. Thanks, Adam! I didn't realize that I was only a couple of days ahead of you!!

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